Think back five years. Chances are your life looks quite different today. Perhaps you've changed jobs, moved house, become a parent, experienced loss, taken up a new hobby, or simply become a different version of yourself. Change is one of the few certainties in life, yet many of us still find it unsettling. Why do we fear something that is happening around us – and to us – all the time? Research suggests that the average person will go through three to five major life reorie

Earlier this week, I had a conversation with someone who had experienced a disappointment. They had been through a robust interview process for a senior role they genuinely wanted. Everything leading up to the decision had been encouraging, and even the feedback afterwards was positive. They had put a lot of time and effort into the process but ultimately, they weren't offered the role. As I listened I could see that it was incredibly difficult for them. Not just because of t

Over the last five years, I've coached many men through challenges in their careers, relationships and personal lives. On the surface, the issues can look very different. One man is struggling at work. Another is navigating a relationship breakdown. Someone else is questioning their purpose and direction. Others feel stuck, frustrated or uncertain about what comes next. But when we scratch beneath the surface, I often find a common thread running through many of these challen

One of the first exercises I do when working with men in midlife is helping them to uncover their core values. It sounds simple. But for many, it’s the first time in years – perhaps ever – that they’ve stopped to ask - ‘What actually matters to me?’ By the time we reach our 40s and 50s, we’ve often built careers, taken on responsibilities, and created full lives. But something can still feel missing… or just... ‘not right’. We search for more meaning, more purpose. Often the

One of the most thought-provoking ideas I’ve come across recently comes from Arthur C. Brooks in ‘From Strength to Strength’. He writes about the shift from ‘fluid intelligence’ to ‘crystallised intelligence’ as we grow older. Early in our careers, many of us are rewarded for speed, technical expertise, problem-solving, ambition, and being the person with the answers. It becomes part of how we measure our value. But over time, those qualities not only diminish – they matter l

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Last Friday evening I drove a 100-mile round trip down to Ware in Hertfordshire to see some old friends. I was in the car longer than I...

Key points in this blog: 1) Parenting emerged as the key challenge for midlife men aged between 40-55 in the Understanding Men in...

According to a recent article from the Harvard Business Review, more than 40% of Americans set New Year’s resolutions each January,...

The coaching work I do with men in midlife is really about empowering them to become happier in and with their lives. The most wonderful...

At my old University's Student Union bar, above the bar, there was a sign with the words 'This is your life' - and then in brackets -...